In the face of Donald Trumps locker room talk, men are coming forward to reject the idea that talk of abusing women is in any way normal
Every day it becomes clearer that Hillary Clinton is going to make history and win the presidential election. Its hard to feel excited or even relieved, though, when her road to victory is so slick with the odium of Donald Trump.
Between the video of Trump bragging about sexual assault and woman after woman coming forward to claim he did just that, its hard to stave off that sick-to-your-stomach feeling Michelle Obama described so powerfully last week. For those of us who have endured a lifetime of unwanted leers and touches, this last leg of the campaign has been painful. And as Trump surrogates and supporters even his wife continue to shrug off the offenses as locker room talk or outright lies, were reminded of just how easily women are disbelieved.
There is one thing, though, thats giving me hope in the midst of this ugliness: the outcry from men who refuse to characterize sexual harassment and abuse as normal male behavior. Too often, discussions about sexual assault center only on women our victimization and perceived culpability. Since the tapes release, though, the national conversation has shifted: men are coming forward en masse to reject the idea that real men talk about abusing women that this is normal language to use in a locker room or anywhere else.
A group of male high school athletes in Oregon posed in feminist shirts with the pictures caption reading, sexual assault is not locker room banter; pro athletes across the country weighed in on social media, decrying the idea that this is just what men are like; a player for Amherst Colleges mens soccer team criticized Trumps comments, writing: As a sports team, we have found success by valuing the ideal of doing the right thing even when no one is watching. These men and others are quelling that nauseated feeling Ive had the last week or so.